Newweek-writing/ When adoption goes wrong?

When adoption goes wrong.


According to the long-term studies, many of the adoptee from foreign countries is going well but some of them go significantly wrong due to severe emotional and behavioral problems. The wrong cases are forced to make adoptive parents an irreparable mistake. The most severe mistake results in death of adoptee and parents in prison. Why those bad cases happen? The writer said the reason is that parents don’t know what they should do when their adopters express emotional and behavioral problems. Those parents have high level of stress, which can influence on the adopted children at home. Therefore, adoptive parents should be educated to understand adopted children and help both of them . Because a troubled adoptee is the result of exposure to violence, abuse and mistreatment at their home countries.

According to this article, orphans are likely to have mental, emotional and behavioral problems through violence, harassments and mistreatments. It is not easy for the parents to find adopter’s problems before they are adopted. Because adoption organizations can keep the parents away from the adoptee intentionally until the legal procedure of adopting finish. In addition, it could take a few months or years to express their problem. Most adoptee from foreign countries need time to adjust to being a new member of the family.
In Korea, some families adopt children but most cases I’ve heard were bad. Worse, I’ve never head about the organization specializing in supporting for the adoptive parents in Korea. It means that adopting is not common around me. Before encouraging adopting, social change toward adopting through the education to adoptive parents as well as adoptee is more important. At this point, I am not pro-adopting because adopting still can cause other social problems such as crime, violence and family disruption.